Wednesday, April 9, 2014

H is for... Husband



When you get married to the right person the husband or the wife becomes the centre of your life. You can’t imagine your life without him in any which way. Something like that happened to me as well...

Frankly speaking I never ever thought about marriage before I did get married. I met a Boy who had the sweetest heart and fell in love with it. The next step was marriage and we just did it. Just like that without weighing in the pros and cons, thinking about the in-laws, planning the future, thinking about kids, knowing the unknown – we jumped into the bandwagon and tied the nuptial knot.

It was only when I stepped into an unknown house did I realise what I had done! Since I had no prior thoughts and hence absolutely no expectations, everything turned out to be beyond perfect and so I did not feel much change. The only change I noticed was in the Boy and how wonderful he actually was.

It has been five years and I’ve noticed that I’m a very difficult person to live with. I control everything, I’m extremely moody and I cry at the drop of a hat. I mean, if I were my husband I would have been one tortured soul. But here I see a man making efforts day in and day out to make me smile each moment. When I dominate, he manipulates! When I cry, he clicks pictures to make me laugh! And when I’m in the worst of my moods, he would just make all the right moves. Do you understand what I am talking about?

In the last two years my health has deteriorated beyond control. On some days I’m literally dependant on him to move around. Obviously it worsens my mood swings. Somehow this guy hasn’t given up. I see him each day working hard to make my life easier. I feel guilty and proud at the same time. When I was getting married to him, I had no clue he had all these qualities as well.

And so, H can only mean Husband to me. They say they have the best husband in the world but they don’t know what it means. You see mine and you’ll know what the finest spouse really stands for!


P.S. I am in an extremely emotional mood today and hence this post. On some days H can also mean Asshole Husband!

49 comments:

  1. Hi Nisha, Am so happy That you have The Finest Spouse :)
    I totally loved this post, I can totally relate to your post cos I am also a control freak.
    The last line makes me feel relived too see that there is another wife who can love and occasionally(rarely) hate her husband at the same time :)

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    1. Haha... actually that P.S. was to bring my darling husband back from cloud no. 9. After all, it is his duty to be nice to me.. what say?

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    2. Everything that Ananya said :D
      Am glad for your happiness... I know the health issues always lurk in the background which is why seeing u enjoying every moment like this makes me happy.

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    3. You've been around long enough to know that all is not well. But that's life and I'm loving every part of it. Atleast trying to :)

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  2. Awwww you are a LUCKY Girl just like me LOL :D

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    1. hahaha.. no way! I am moreee lucky!!

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    2. chalo ho jaye Mukabla :D

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    3. Lol! So where should we send them... a wrestling ring or a Hallmark shop?
      Mine would be miserable in a card shop though.

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  3. So the traits of your H change with your varying moods!!! But he comes out as an admirable person from what you have written here.Lucky you are!

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    1. In other words, he knows how to handle me and does that in a manner which I find adorable! Believe me, I thank my stars each day.

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  4. Nisha, that was a lovely post on H. So blessed to understand what it means to have a loving, caring person to look after you. Hope your health improves. Much love

    ~Shailaja

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    1. You said it all, Shailaja. It is one thing to have a good person around. It is totally another thing to appreciate that. Thankyou for your concern.

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  5. ahahahaha I loved your P.S more...Bwahahah! woman!!!
    But I do love how he is there through all your highs and lows. Stay blessed!!

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    1. Like I said before, that P.S. was to bring him back to earth. He religiously reads this blog :)

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  6. Yeah, I am also not the best wife , though I think my husband suffers a lot to handle me !

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    1. The fact that we acknowledge that we are not the easiest people is good enough. I think some men like that challenge!! Although their sincerity makes me feel bad for them ;)

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  7. That was certainly an interesting read, Nisha:)

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  8. Ah lucky you! You know I never thought of marriage until I met Cal too. That was the last thing on my mind. But after a while of courtship, the next thing was marriage and we just plunged. Only after I moved into his house is when it hit me that I was now married.

    I'm an angelic wife. I changed myself without realizing it, to adjust to the mood swings of my husband. He is the same too. So I guess we are lucky to have each other. :)

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    1. Angelic wife...self praise ...hahahaha!!! I can't call myself angelic coz (un)fortunately the husband is a bigger,better angel. So much so that the world pities him at times for being my husband since I control things so much! But as long as he's not complaining I don't care about what the world says.

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  9. Wow!!! All these husband, marriage, wedding related posts is tempting me to get married!!! nice one!!

    ~S(t)ri
    Participant|AtoZ Challenge 2014
    Smile, it makes (y)our day!

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    1. Haha... how come the children related posts don't tempt me to have kids?? Food for thought :)

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    2. LOL, no they don't tempt me too!!! :P :D

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  10. Loved this post and So happy that you have such a wonderful husband... And you post makes me realize that I have a great H at home too :D

    Random Thoughts Naba

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    1. I guess the Blogosphere is lucky with many happy couples. May the happiness keeps increasing!

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  11. Anonymous4/09/2014

    And i truly believe I have the best husband in the world in every sense :). You won't believe I considered about writing exactly on these two topics for both H and G, but ultimately did otherwise.

    But it is always good to see happy couples/marriages around :).

    Girl you keep mentioning about your health every now and then, it somehow disturbs me knowing the happy chirpy carefree you through your blog. Hope things would get better gradually. Take care.

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    1. We think alike in many ways na? I want to know your name now!

      I give my 100% to keep my health in check. But God has other plans. And since I can't control that, I keep myself happy and chirpy. I wanna be an inspiration to the world you see :D

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    2. Anonymous4/10/2014

      That was my first reaction when I first landed on your blog and read almost the whole of archives :). And we can catch offline/on mail to know my real name though it starts with the same letter as yours :)

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    3. Ok, N!! Lets catch up when April ends.. this thing is toooo time consuming and is stressing me out!

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  12. Aha!! That's such a happy and a heartwarming post, Nisha! Have you made the husband read this post?? :)
    Take care of your health and stay happy always! Cheers :)

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    1. My husband has subscribed to these posts by email and he checks his email like 20 times a day! But that Boy will not mention to me that he has read this... he will be full of pride inside and just plant sweet kisses on my cheeks to let me know that he has read this!!

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  13. Nisha,you are lucky that you have got such an understanding husband.

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    1. Coming from a senior person like you, that means a lot. Thankyou :)

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  14. He is indeed a wonderful man and loves you to the core. Hope your health improves soon.

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    1. Thankyou, Rajlakshmi! I truly feel blessed.

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  15. Lol! Loved the last line! And amazing post...I can totally relate to this! FIrst of all congrats on 5 years! Wow that is a long time considering the fact we live in a world where divorce is so common...Secondly there are no marriages without fights...heard some one say if there are two people who are alive and together, they will fight!

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    1. Well... our marriage is without fight. We disagree and then come to a common ground. But fight, surprisingly, never.

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  16. aah dats so sweet nisha :) though ryt nw am in a phase of i-dont-want-to-get-married-i-want-to study-even-more, posts like this take me to dream land! glad u hav got such a caring spouce :)

    http://swathishenoy.blogspot.com/
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    1. Getting married changes your life totally. So do it only when you feel you are ready. Also, don't dream too much. Having absolutely no expectations is the key!
      Oh, that's too much gyaan for the day!

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  17. Wow lucky lady, Nisha :) and I,m sure ur H is lucky too, for such a gr8 post on him.

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    1. Oh yes, he is super duper lucky. I wish I could see him smile when he was reading this post. But I don't let him do that in front of me..

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  18. You made me go awwww with your post.. Lovely Nisha .. Stay Blessed :)

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    1. The love here is aww-worthy!! Thanks :)

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  19. You should print and frame your post and give it to your husband as a gift. :)


    Carol @ Battered Hope

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    1. Haha.. that's an idea. I am sure he would be embarrassed more than he'd be happy. Such girly things make him so uncomfortable.

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  20. Anonymous4/10/2014

    Wow... Loved it Nisha... esp the last line :P :P And I can totally relate :P
    Stay blessed :)
    I have a wedding related series for the AtoZ.. check out if interested :)
    Shalzzz|Loving Life
    Check out my latest at Tale of Two Tomatoes

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  21. You are lucky! Stay happy, stay blessed! :)

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Your sweetness makes my day. Gentle criticism will be taken in the right spirit too :)