Enough is Enough

This post, like my previous posts, is about weddings. But this wedding, which was scheduled just a day before mine, will never happen. When I think of the girl who like me, created a wedsite, must have packed her trousseau, had her lehnga trials, dreamt about her honeymoon...her future ...lost her fiance in the ongoing massacre, my heart skips a beat.

We cant even begin to imagine the plight of the family who lost their son. Nor can we feel what the families of other victims are going through. How can we begin celebrations of any kind when something as simple as eating out has become so dangerous?

We've had a lot. I really dont know whom to blame. I just want to know what can I do so that when I die, I'm not a part of such ghastly headlines...

Talking of similarities...

I never put hello tunes in my phone. This week, I thought of adding one. And strangely enough I found them very similar to weddings! How? Here are a few observations:

1. You try really hard to decide the best hello tune for your listener. Just like you decide the best venue, card, food, etc.

2.You spend moolah. But all for the entertainment of the caller. Similarly, you spend lakhs for the whole wide world who get entertained at your expense.

3.You, however, never dial your number to enjoy your tune. At the wedding, you are decked up, handling heavy clothes with a fake toothy smile touching everyone and anyone's feet. Nah, you don't really enjoy your own wedding.

4. Like the song selected, everything about your wedding says a lot about you.

5.If you want to spend more money, you can customize tunes for different callers. Likewise, you organize different functions for different people. You know sangeet for aunty ji's, cocktails for uncles and bachelor party for friends...

6. It doesnt matter if the caller likes your tune, he has to bear it. Weddings can be a social nuisance for some.

7.There are some who would call you just because they like your song. Like the ones who will come to your wedding just because you've laid some yummy grub.

8. It becomes boring after a while and you feel like changing it...hmmm...that's a similarity that I still have to experience...

Ah, weddings are all I can think of :)

Changes

As time goes by and life meanders into a new era altogether, I think of the numerous emotions a girl goes through when she is getting married. She blushes when her fiance's name comes up, her eyes are filled with tears when they discuss that she'll soon go away, she has a sinking feeling whenever she attends a wedding, she's joyous when she thinks of all the new things that are going to happen to her, she gets upset when she thinks of all the sacrifices the parents have to make for her, she is proud when they talk about everything that is perfect....

These and a lot of emotions fill a girl's heart. And when they get mixed up, the feeling is absolutely blank. Really, it is Blank.

I wonder if it's that big a deal. Everyone gets married. Then why do I feel so 'out-of-the-world'? I'm sure I'll be laughing at myself a few days later when I think of the past. But right now, I feel Blank.

And when I think of the era that was, I wonder if the next step would be as beautiful. I remember changing schools, houses,colleges, friends, love interests. I remember I was afraid to embark on a new journey everytime. I remember being nervous about the future. But then...I also remember settling down, cherishing and living every moment there on. I never ever thought that yesterday was better than the present.

God has been kind. And changes have been always for the best. I'll be alright! Moreover, I have my Mr.Right with me to take care of that :)


p.s.This is more of a 'Dear Diary' kind of a post, nevertheless...

I miss...

blogging...
writing...
sharing...
reading...
commenting...
replying...
...and everything to do with this virtual world.

I have nothing much to say for I feel blank these days. Life has only one aim - getting married. Scary yet exciting. Sad yet happy. Real yet a dream.

I will be back soon. And then I'll share everything! Everything? You wish! :)

The Ring Ceremony

I've been living a very busy life in the last few days...thanks to the wedding to be. On Sunday, me and the Boy exchanged rings to live happily ever after! here are a few interesting things about the day:

1. I dont know if I was nervous or happy, but I just laughed all through it!! I was on this stage with some 350 people looking at me and I couldnt help giggling. Someone adviced me to behave like a bride...but did i care...NAH!!! I hope I wasnt looking like a joker!hehe

2.The ring didnt fit him!!Although I had taken proper measurement, something went wrong. I tried hard to fit it in, but left it in between for people were watching. Anyway, he's ready to gift it to me since he doesnt like any jewels!

3.My 50 year old uncle danced on Pappu cant dance with my 7 year old cousin. It's the best dance I've seen till today! All my cousins, brother & bhabhi and friends put in a lot of effort to prepare a veryyyyyyyyyyyy nice skit...It made me feel so special!

4.The theme was purple. It made all the pics look sooooo pretty.

There are loads of pointers, lots of funny moments and loads of sweetness attached to this day. You really wont be interested so I'll leave it at that. Life has changed in some way. I cant help looking at my ring 50 times a day! I dont want to leave my home, my city and my family, yet I cant wait to start a new life.

Ah, its a beautiful feeling. And I've promised myself to enjoy every bit of it. It helps me not to be nervous about the new family, new city and a new life. I hope I'm giggling on my wedding day too! :)

Tagged!

I got tagged by Deeply Dip and yet again, I have very few to tag back!It's hard if everyone around you has done it already!

• RULE #1 People who have been tagged must write their answers on their blogs and replace any question that they dislike with a new question formulated by themselves.
• RULE #2 Tag 6 people to do this quiz and those who are tagged cannot refuse. These people must state who they were tagged by and cannot tag the person whom they were tagged by continue this game by sending it to other people.

1. If your lover betrayed you, what will your reaction be?
I would shout from the rooftop that I'm single and ready to mingle!
On a serious note, I would be angry and disturbed. More than that, I would be lost thinking what did I do wrong.

2. If you can have a dream come true, what would it be.

Be Bill Gate's daughter!
Since that's impossible, I would want to write a book and win an award for it!

3. Whose butt would you like to kick?
These days, Shahid Kapoor is my fave. So anything would do, even the butt ;)

The Bihar govt. Why the hell they are so slow in helping the flood affected. It's extremely disturbing.

4. What would do with a billion dollars?
Do charity.

Ok, 20% charity, 30% saving, 30% travel and 20% spending on me and my loved ones. Wow, I have a plan!

5. Will you fall in love with your best friend?

Provided he's a he!
I am already in love with someone who first became my best friend.

6. Which is more blessed: loving someone or being loved by someone?

I want both or neither.
Is there something worse than loving someone and not being loved back?I can't love someone and know for the rest of my life that it would never be reciprocated. Nor,do I want someone to be in such a position. It would kill me. So, neither?

7. How long do you intend to wait for someone you love?
Not very long. Life is too short to wait for someone. All we do in the process is hurt ourselves. And I'm selfish when it comes to love. It happens only in movies!

8. If the person you secretly like is attached, what will you do?

Plot to pull them apart!
And when I don't succeed, I'll start liking someone else! Really, how long can a girl wait! And I'm absolutely serious. This whole forever business is actually not true and made only for great books and blockbuster movies!

9. If you could root for one social cause, what would it be?

Someday, I would want to open a school and teach underprivileged kids. Education makes a society a happier place to live in.

10. What takes you down the fastest?

Pretense.

11. Where do you see yourself in 10 years time?

On Oprah Winfrey!
In a sweet home, filled with lots of love, a doting husband and money to have a luxurious life :)

12. What’s your fear?

No teeth when I'm 40!
And several other health problems. I hope I could keep them at bay.

13. What kind of person do you think the person who tagged you is?

I grew up copying her - so - she's out of this world!hehe
Secretive, ambitious and understanding!

14. Would you rather be single and rich or married and poor?

Do I have to choose????????
Married and poor. There's nothing more important to me than being in a loving relationship. And I wont consider myself poor when I am with that someone!

15. If you fall in love with two people simultaneously who will you pick?

The richer one!
This question doesn't make sense...It should have some alternatives!

16. Would you give all in a relationship?

Yes, yes and a million times yes!

17. Would you forgive and forget someone no matter how horrible a thing he has done?

Never. Even if I say I have, to show the world how great I am, I can't forgive and forget. It's not good for me, yet this is one thing I can't do.

18. Do you prefer being single or in a relationship?

Now that you already know how desperate I am to be in a relationship, i don't need to answer this! :D

***the answers in red are my first responses to all the questions!!!***

I tag a few people whom I have recently been acquainted with on the blogosphere:
Sandhya , Piper, and anyone who wants to be on the Hot seat! This tag is fun, do take it.

I won!!

My very generous Bua gave me the "Brilliant Weblog Award".

This is given to sites and blogs that are smart and brilliant both in their content and their design.
The rules are:

• When you receive the prize you must write a post showing it,together with the name of who has given it to you, and link them back.
• Choose a minimum of 7 blogs (or even more) that you find brilliant in their content or design
• Show their names and links and leave them a comment informing they were prized with ‘Brilliant Weblog'
• Show a picture of those who awarded you and those you give the prize(optional).
• And pass it on!

Now I haven't won many things in my life (except the hearts of a few guys!lol!!). So this is special. And more so because it comes from someone who is exceptionally sweet and talented.

Before I move ahead, I would like to thank my family, God, my friends, and a lot of known and unknown people who give me ideas to write here. Thank you all!

Arti awarded me this a few days back but the lazy bun that I have become I couldn't respond. I have been so irregular that I have no idea whom to pass it on! Most of the people on my list are so brilliant in their skills that they have been awarded this time and again. I would yet again boost their egos and tell them that I really love reading their posts!

1. D : I may or may not agree with her thoughts all the time, but she makes me think. I dig her blog!! :)

2. det-res: Her posts are extremely thoughtful. I like her writing style - simple yet thought provoking.

3. Gaziabonts: This blog can make you jealous of the talent behind it!!

4. Roshan's : I really like his sense of humor.

I would pass this award to only four, sorry for breaking the rules! I would try to use this right later in life...or maybe...just leave it... for its fun to break the rules!!

Thank you all for reading me...