When I got her friend request on Facebook, I could not
recognise her at first. I scrolled her page to see all the pictures and
realised she was the same, quiet girl from school.
I still remember the first morning she had walked into our
class of 45 students. Her sparkling white shirt over crisp grey skirt
partitioned by a brand-new grey and red belt already disassociated her from the
rest of us. It was our last year in school, and parents were not keen on spending
on new uniform for their 16-year olds. Eager to start a new life, we were not
interested either.
‘Where can I keep my bag?’ she inquired upon entering.
‘You can place yourself in the front row, Ma’am will come
and find you a spot,’ I replied trying to stop myself from smiling too much.
She kept her belongings on a bench and looked around for the
timetable on the softboard, and then started to copy from it for future reference.
My friends and I stood in the last rows and spoke about her
in hushed tones. ‘I hope I am not separated from you because of her, you
won’t even have much space to sit!’ Payal remarked with her eyes rolling.
‘Shh, now don’t be mean. I can easily fit in with her,’ I
said putting my hand on Payal’s mouth. ‘I am worried how the boys will react.’
The boys had occupied the last row at the opposite end and had
been chuckling all along. Every student who entered kept his bag on his seat
and joined the hullabaloo. Suddenly one of them walked up to the blackboard and
changed the number of students from 45 to 48. There was a loud uproar on their
side.
Payal and Riddhima could not contain their laughter. I
couldn’t decide if I wanted to laugh with my old classmates or feel bad for the
newcomer who was, thankfully, unaware of the joke.
The school bell rang, and it was time for our first period.
Mrs. Newton entered the class and looked at fresh entrant in the front row.
‘Ah, you must be Yati Shukla,’ she said, lovingly putting
her arm around the new girl. She looked around and introduced her to us. And
then her eyes stopped at me, the class monitor. ‘Nisha, you will sit with her
and help her adjust, is that ok?’
‘Yes Ma’am,’ I answered picking up my already packed bag.
The boys looked at me with their mischievous eyes and I pretended to be
completely fine with the shift.
Mrs. Newton took the attendance and stood up to scribble the
number of students on the board. When she turned, her fingers stopped for a few
seconds reading the number 48. We all thought she was conjuring a harsh
punishment in her head. There was pin drop silence in class. She calmly took
the duster and changed the number to 46. Then she turned around and looked at
me and my eyes dropped with shame. At that moment we both knew that Yati won’t
be making many friends this year.
And that is why I was surprised to see that only 10 years
later, she had 1500 friends on Facebook. Yati now had perfectly sculpted body
and oodles of make-up on her face which made her look very different from the
chubby girl she was. Many of her photographs included celebrities from
Bollywood, and on further stalking, I realised that she was a celebrated Public
Relations Manager for countless.
And then there were my other classmates, all 44 of them, on
her friend-list, some successful, some stuck in the same era, but none who had
bothered to talk to her in that one year of high school.
Inspiring true tale... Actually we judge people too quickly based on their external looks and sometimes their behaviour or speech. And later are in for a pleasant surprise... Only to feel bad for having judged them or undermined them in whichever way! Life does teach us though doesn't it :)
ReplyDeleteWe are reckless as teenagers, very quick to make harsh judgments. Life teaches us though..
DeleteSome history is worth being haunted by :) Is this a real anecdote? Loved it anyway.
ReplyDeleteIt is partially true. Thanks for reading!
DeleteI had a similar friend in school and she's had a similar story. Both of us used to walk to school together. But that's how strange the virtual world is. So many people who hardly ever spoke to me in school now send me friend requests.
ReplyDeleteNisha you've had a wonderful run in A to Z. I enjoyed visiting you. I don't know how to follow a blog on blogspot but I will look out for you on fb or something where I am sure you will link up your future posts. Congratulations!
I am on the other end - I was quite popular and now I turn down friend requests!! None of that matters now..
DeleteThank you Sonia for your constant support in this. You can subscribe by entering your email address in the box on the left. I guess it is only visible in laptop mode. I don't share much on social network as of now, lets see!! We will keep in touch for sure.
As a mother, I now realise that we are groomed to not get friendly with strangers. The implications are like the one story above. I hope that I am able to sensitize my kids otherwise
ReplyDeleteInteresting story Nisha. I love it how you have expressed this story with ease. I'm glad I stumbled upon your Blog through this A2Z. Thank you :)
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I've had a very similar experience in my classroom when a new girl who was plump joined our class. She was aware that she would be the butt of jokes and kept to herself a lot. She's a smart and active law student today. Our exterior impression on the others can do nothing to stop us from succeeding. Loved this post. :)
ReplyDeleteExactly the same situation. Thank you for appreciating!
DeleteI’m glad Yati didn’t let that one difficult year of high school stop her growth as a person. The struggles of our teenage years don’t define us as people, I just wish more teens knew this simple truth.
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Oh yes, she was a smart girl. I know better now!
DeleteTime changes the tide for many. Probably she was the ugly duckling who blossomed to be a fine swan in years to come.
ReplyDeleteShe wasn't ugly, just bogged down with some extra weight. Also, joining a new school at 16 isn't easy. She did well though..
DeleteKids can be so cruel na..I am happy for Yati
ReplyDeleteTotally. Adults too!
DeleteA sharp commentary on facebook 'friendships' and body shaming. Nicely done Nisha. I just wish that Yati didn't feel the need to sculpt her body or put on oodles of makeup to fit in. But then, this is the reality of many these days--unfortunately.
ReplyDeleteSometimes we just start for the sake of others and begin to love it. I hope she is doing well too..
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